Lately I feel I’ve been pushed maybe stretched is a better word. Hubby is on nights, I feel like a single parent unless it’s hubby’s day off, I found some disappointing potholes in our curriculum, I’ve had a head cold that has been tormenting me for the last two weeks, I haven’t been able to work out because of being sick or having to run kids here or there, I’m overdue for a date with my love, dealing with the uncertainty of the Air Force Officer RIF Board (Reduction in Force) and dealing with a landlady who thinks we make holes in
her our walls for fun
because we have nothing else to do.
Seriously, who paints over an air pocket on the wall? I believe that only our increasingly
annoying landlords would do such a thing and have.
I can’t really say life has handed me lemons, but it hasn’t given me the easiest time of it lately. I’ve started reading Unglued: Making Wise Choices in the Midst of Raw Emotions by Lysa Terkeursy with a group of ladies from church. What great timing right? I wish I could say that I stop and meditate on the words I have read before I react, but sadly I don’t. Keeping my Latin temper and emotions in check is one of my biggest struggles. Luckily Lysa says there is a thing called Imperfect Progress, or I’d be doomed to deep and constant guilt.
So how do you handle the unpleasant things life throws at you? Do you grin and bear it, do you fall into depression, do you fight harder, do you drink, do you go shopping or do you just sit down and eat? I wish I could say I pray immediately when I feel I’m getting to a breaking point, but sadly I turn to God after I’ve had a hissy fit of some magnitude.
Maybe it is just the little things like for me having my wonderful hubby use my products in the shower. I LOVE that he wants to take care of himself as I do, but those are expensive and his hair is only maybe an inch long, so he doesn’t need to use my Moroccan Argon Oil Shampoo and he should he use his own face wash not mine.
It seems no matter how many times, how nice or how sternly I ask the girls to leave my hair brush and styling comb in the bathroom they don’t because A: they have their own but want mine B: I hate getting out of the shower wanting to brush my hair before the frizz takes over, but I end up having to go on a hunt for my brush. That is a typical example for me trying to avoid having a coming unglued challenge.
Here are some helpful tips I found and that I’m trying to practice. It is a slow process but progress nonetheless!
Imperfect Progress: Thanks to Lysa Terkeursy and her book I’m learning about imperfect progress. This is the hardest thing for me to wrap my little head around. I’m somewhat of a perfectionist, and when things don’t happen how I think they should happen or I keep making the same stupid mistake it is really hard for me. I’m learning that just because it doesn’t happen instantly and perfectly, doesn’t mean the real change isn’t coming.
Take a break every day: Yes, I know all of the mommies are busy and put everyone first, but we really need a break. It might only be locking the door to the bathroom just to pee alone for 10 minutes. Not that ladies take 10 minutes to pee, but maybe you see some brows that need plucking while you wash your hands or maybe you read while on the porcelain throne. I know a lot can happen in 10 minutes when you have little ones, but figure out how best it works for you to have 10 minutes of rejuvenating time.
Be honest: Tell your hubby and one of your closest friends how you are really feeling. Husbands are the best confidants, but there is a limit to their understanding, so that’s why it is good to have a true friend, and maybe you have more than one lady you can pour your heart out to. It helps to have fighters on your side to help keep you strong, lift you up and try to keep you sane.
So these have been helping me, but I still need work. I’m aware before I react, and that is Huge for me.