I’ve been racking my wee little brain for something to blog about. Just found out that Military Spouse Day is upon us. May 9, 2014.
I feel very silly that after 12 years of being a MilSpouse I’m just learning about this day. Well, I knew about it just never knew which day it fell on. It could be because it is the Friday before Mother’s Day and I’m always busy getting stuff together for all the Moms. Either way better late then never and here is what I found out about it.
Military Spouse Day or Military Spouse Appreciation Day is celebrated on the Friday before Mother’s Day in the United States. Many United States citizens take this day to acknowledge the significant contributions, support, and sacrifices of spouses of their Armed Forces.
President Ronald Reagan recognized the profound importance of spouse commitment to the readiness and well-being of military members and declared May 23, 1984 the first Military Spouse Day with Proclamation 5184, dated April 17, 1984. The US Secretary of Defense, Caspar Weinberger standardized the date by declaring the Friday preceding Mother’s Day as Military Spouse Day.
We all know that being married; having a career, raising kids and life in general isn’t easy. Add in the “military” part of life, which can be the most frustrating, unpredictable, crazy, priceless, gratifying, hair-raising ride of life you never knew you wanted to take. There are times it can be pretty heavy, depressing, and downright scary, too.
When my husband asked me to marry to marry him, he also asked if I was sure I could live “the military life.” I was too in love with HIM to know or really care about what he was talking about.
I would learn a week after we were married what he was talking about. Here is what I have learned thus far.
You might spend your very first anniversary apart and many more after that.
You understand the kind of self-sacrificing, we-can-overcome-anything love that most people think only exists in books.
If you are lucky your solider will be home for the birth of your children. (I’m blessed x 2.)
You feel helpless when your babies cry for daddy, when you are crying for him too.
You Hate good-byes, but mentally start preparing for them once you move to a new base. It always seems to happens that the neighbor next door whom you hit it off with is preparing to move or just got orders to move.
You learn to call your spouses co-workers by their last name.
You have shamelessly used the military ID card to get out of a tough spot at least once. Don’t feel bad we all have done it.
You can’t stand mandatory fun days, especially when you have to pay for them.
You find moving stickers from 2-3 moves ago. You might even save them and plan on making something out of them.
You know your spouses social security number better than your own, if you even know your own.
You may be the first to complain about the military, but HATE it when civilians do it. Seriously, what do they know? After all, we are just venting.
You develop the 2-year itch. No matter how much we hate to move or love a place, after 2 years we are ready for something new.
You prepare to stand up for the National Anthem in the regular movie theater, and then remember you aren’t on base.
Your family and friends are supportive, but they will never truly understand. A lot of the time we don’t even understand, when things can change with the wind. They’ll never understand like another military spouse.
Being a military spouse is a 24/7 commitment requiring, dedication and patience. We may not put on a uniform everyday but even with all the speed bumps, sacrifices, deployments, those painful tri-care calls trying to move your coverage, we find the strength to carry on and we are Dang Proud to be a Military Spouse!
So while you are preparing to celebrate all the wonderful Mother’s this weekend, please set aside Friday May 9 to think about all the Military Spouses across the world.
Happy Military Spouse Day, Happy Mother’s Day to all the friends and mother’s in my life.