Monday, February 9, 2015

Valentine's Day Gift Giving...

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner and most people have their babysitter lined up or anti-Valentine’s Day activities lined up.  Depending how you view the day.  I enjoy the day. We don’t go overboard, but we have fun with it.

This year we will celebrate 13 years of wedded bliss. We have had some memorable Valentine’s Days and some forgettable ones.  Probably half of those 13 Valentine’s Days we haven’t even spent together because of work schedules or deployments.  I’m a lucky gal that my hubby is pretty awesome when it comes to being romantic. Even though we don’t get to take regular dates because we have what I would call “trust phobia” with everyone (minus most family of course) when it comes to our children.  We are dealing with it and plan on finding someone regular to babysit before they are in high school.

I know there are plenty of people who say, “Valentine’s Day is just another day” and they are completely right, but I like gifts and so if my hubby chooses to buy me something on this Cupid’s Day I shan't say no.

Even though he is a true Romanic he has asked me “So Babe, what do you want this year?” on every gift giving occasion, which doesn’t bother me because I’m always making lists of “I wants”. Here are a few of my most recent lists:

I went through a phase where I asked for an Orchid plant, but no matter what I did or how hard I tried I still ended up killing it after the flowers fell off, so again it might have lasted longer, but a waste of money in the end.

I’m manicure and pedicure kind of gal, so that is always a winner in my book

A RED Keurig seems nice, but I’m still undecided if it is for me.  I still really love my old fashion coffee maker.

I keep a list on Amazon of Books that I want.  Hubby could buy any five at random or just one and I’d be super duper excited, because I know they are books I definitely want to read at some point and besides I just plain LOVE books!!! Yes, I know I’m a Geek!

Take me shopping for a designer handbag. Even though I’ll spend time looking and after I drool a little I’ll probably walk out without a purchase, because I can’t justify spending that much on a bag that I’ll switch out in a few months.

This year hubs planned to buy me a bigger diamond. Due to my expensive taste, we decided this probably wasn’t the best time with a big move and lots of expenses coming up. 

So that is what I have for myself at the moment. Just wait till it gets closer to my birthday. 

Now, how about them fellas?  They are just about as difficult to buy for as we are.  I think I’m pretty good at figuring out what my man will like, but there have still been some misses over the last 13 years.  

I’ve learned to not buy him clothes.  Not that I buy him clothes on Valentine’s Day, but now I only go shopping with him not for in the clothing department anyway.  Even though I think he would look great in something and it might be stylish.  He has his favorite outfits and the rest will sit in the closet till I end up cleaning them out.  Even though he swore he really liked them.. Umm, ok yeah

Hubby usually has his Amazon cart loaded with things he would like so that is an easy go to.

This year he will be gone for Valentine’s Day doing training so I plan on spicing it up…Card and a boudoir picture from a previous gift to remind him of what is waiting at home.  What guy wouldn’t love that??

What if you are on a budget?  Just because you have a budget doesn’t mean you can’t have a romantic and great Valentine’s Day.  Here are a few ideas we tried when we were on a budget a few years ago.

Romanic Dinner for two after the little ones went to bed.  When we lived in Vermont my hubby would buy Lobster and Steak and cook up a delicious meal for us.  We would put the girls to bed and then dress up and sit down to a delicious feast.

Save for a joint gift you both will really enjoy.  Ours was a rowing machine. We love to be active and it was the best money spent ever.

Make your own gift. Nothing is more special than something truly coming from the heart.  One year we weren’t together and hubby wrote me a love letter on special paper and bought wax and a special seal stamp just for that letter. Yes, one of my favorite gifts EVER!!

A “Why I Love You book” You can find it on Amazon for cheap and I think it would fun to fill out the 96 pages of "your love”.  I provided a link below.

There are so many ways you can be creative and show your soul mate, the father or mother of your children, the one you love just how much they mean to you..

Whether Valentine’s Day, Anniversary or Just Because, Be Creative and Love the One you are with!!!

Last time we were able to dress up for Valentine's Day

Saturday, January 10, 2015

Feeling Numb

We have waited 5 months for information and now that we finally have news I feel NUMB. You mentally prepare yourself for every base on your list, but no matter how hard I tried I favored and dreamed of living in Europe again. Most the books I read take place in Europe in various time frames throughout history.  Europe is in my blood, and one day I will be there to live again, but sadly not this time around.
For the next 3 three years we will be experiencing something totally different. Kadena, Japan.  When I got hubby’s text I felt a weight lifted in the fact that we finally knew what the heck was going on, but when I read Japan my heart fell.
It is 6800 miles away from my family and friends, a 16-hour time difference, and I haven’t found tickets for cheaper than $1,300.  I don’t foresee lots of visitors, the houses are SMALL and so that means LOTS of stuff must to go and both our cars must sell.
Back in August I told the girls that we had to be prepared for Japan even though we had no desire to go there.  In 13 years I have never said, “ I didn’t sign up for this”, but last night I caught myself saying that.  I know given time I’ll enjoy this assignment, but now it is a far cry from what I hoped, prayed, and dreamed of.  That is my fault for letting myself get carried away in the daydreaming process of returning to Europe because after all this is the military and we really don’t get a say in anything. We just put down the four places in order of most wanted and pray.  I must say I’m not completely depressed by this but I’m not swinging from the chandeliers either.
Girls are making a list of things they are excited about doing, learning to scuba dive is one and I can still teach Zumba.  We are just getting started so give us time a the list will grow.

Wednesday, December 31, 2014

Saying Good-bye to 2014

As I sit here on the eve of the New Year and look back on the last year I can honestly smile with contentment. I feel complete and happy.  Who cares if we still don’t know where we are moving to or if we are? I mean we were only supposed to find out in November, but who keeps track of silly stuff like that? Certainly, not this nut typing.  We are mostly healthily, happy, and excited for 2015!!

Going over last year's Resolution I think I did better than I thought I would. Not that I doubted myself, but you know what I mean? Right? Life happens.

 I read more, even though I didn’t reach my goal of 125 books, which normally would have been easy for me, but to challenge myself I added that I had to finish EVERY book I started, whether it bored me or not.  I can be a book quitter, if by the first page or chapter I’m not sucked in I'll put it down.  So this was tough for me, and part of my resolution.  This is why I only finished 50 books. At first I was rather disappointed, that the number was so low but the more I thought I about it the better I felt, because I finished every last one.  I think I would have had to hire a maid to feed my family and clean if I read any more than that. Phew…

I can’t say that I completely stopped yelling, but I have certainly cut back.

Overall, I thought I had a better attitude and therefore was Happier and I tried doing more things with the girls.  While I was home visiting, one of my sisters told me that she was amazed with the change she saw in me.  I seemed stronger in the Lord, happier, more relaxed and funnier with the girls.  I got misty eyed. Oh don't judge me, I’m a basket case. It was just so nice to hear that someone could notice a change. Especially someone who had seen the crankier self!

I don’t know as a female if I’ll ever feel “in shape” especially after kids. I did run my 5K this summer, which was a big thing for me. Not sure if there are anymore in the future.  I’m just not a runner, everything jiggles and hurts—No matter how great I feel and look after.  Think Zumba will just have to be my form of cardio.  I do feel that I make wiser eating choices, and as a family we stay active. 

Loving my hubby… Could be one of easiest things to do. Ok except when he leaves his hair in the sink, then I go a little crazy.  Since I was a little girl I knew there was just the right man out there for me, and he is it! Seriously there is NO else that could put up with me, think what I’m thinking at the same moment, make me laugh, smile and just makes me crazy, wonderfully happy!

This year I’m not making a Resolution. I’m sure I’ll have goals throughout the year, but I’m setting myself free this year of sitting down and writing out what I want to do.  Let’s see what I’ll accomplish in 2015!! Bring it on Baby!!

May your New Year Be Amazing and Blessed!!

Lots of love,

Monday, November 3, 2014

Home is where....

I’ve for the most part always embraced our life so far. Travel, experience, yada, yada, yada and well you get the picture.

Virginia it never really bothered me although it was difficult for the first eight months because we lived in a very UNSAFE area. We didn’t know how dangerous at the time because we were overly excited about the private beach and pool.  Shortly after our eight-month mark hubby was deployed and I was packing up our super tiny place, storing it, and going home for the next six months. Bittersweet.  When he arrived home we moved to another place that less ghetto (it had two doors instead of just one). Luckily hubby made some friends when he was gone and I was introduced to their wives and we became friends! Sadly we missed family, but it was bearable.

Chickpea came along and shortly after we received our orders to Italy and Life was Grand. Life in Italy was a total Dream (Crappy Fiats, Gelato, Vino Rosso you name it). We had an AWESOME group of friends who are now family. By our Lords grace we were given Sweet Ladybug who was born half way through our Italian tour. After her birth our grand European tour kept on getting better and better.
Our European tour finally came to and end as we headed to Vermont for hubby’s schooling. Vermont left me with a feeling of freezing aloneness for the first year and a half. My reprieve came when dropping off Chickpea off at school and saying “Hi” and “Bye” to Miss Porter (who was my only social outlet/local gossip de jour). Hubby’s senior year I finally made friends, but I was so ready to leave Vermont that I probably didn’t invest as much of myself as thought I did.

Ohio oh sweet plain not much going on Ohio our 6th of 6 choices on our list of places to go (I can blame myself since I created the list). Oddly our time in Ohio really hasn’t been that bad and I must say that it has been our quickest adjustment EVER!! However, it has brought insecurity, jealousy an awareness of what we are missing to the surface.  Hubby and I were able to find a perfect church for us here in Ohio. Since finding our AMAZING church I’ve realized these people have known each other since the church opened its doors or their WHOLE family lives in this area.  I think that is the hardest thing because we have been the outsiders for so long.  That outsider feeling hasn’t just been the church, but also at Co-Op, Karate and it seems everywhere we turn people are rooted here. Our roots don’t even break the surface, but we have made a home here.  Even with friends, church and activies we miss our family even more than ever before.

It hasn’t really hit me like it has since moving to Ohio that our girls will never have a childhood home; spend weekends with the grandparents, no growth chart marks on the doorframes. After 12 years of being married to the Military you would think that I would have gotten it by now.  Instead of moving to different houses within the same zip code from time to time, they get different states and countries.  Even though we aren’t close geographically they are still close to their grandparents and they really have a special bond that I hoped that they would have.  That leads to the unveiling of my plaque.

My friend has a plaque her hubby made that says, “Home is where they send us” I feel in love with it.  I wanted something similar without seeming like a total copycat, even though give her kudos it was a FAB idea and besides imitation as they say is the sincerest form of flattery.

I had planned on being super crafty, but when I priced the equipment needed for what I wanted to do it was just cheaper to buy it from this little husband/wife shop. So I sent them my ideas and they sent this back. I added the pink feet (craftiness complete!).  Hopefully in the next few weeks I’ll reveal the new link!!